My Bucket List Is Empty

My Bucket List Is Empty

[/et_pb_signup] So much has been made about having a bucket list.  A listing of things you want to do, places you want to see and people you want to meet before you die.  Some lists are the typical fare: skydiving, visiting paris, going on a safari, while others include items that are a little bit of work: learn to speak french, join a circus, write a book and get published. I don’t have a bucket list. I don’t want to worry about another to do list, I don’t want to be lying on my death bed worrying that I still had 4 things to cross off. I live each day in the gratitude that I am here again today.  Each day brings a new opportunity, a new discovery a new sense of joy.  Each new experience I have is savoured as a moment of wonder and awe that came as a blessing not as a tick mark off my list. Don’t get me wrong, it’s ok to plan your next holiday, or set your next goal but I don’t think it’s necessary to put it on a list of things you must do before you die. Bucket lists are ways to escape your current life and somehow make the amazingness of each and every ordinary day insignificant.  If we are worrying about getting to Paris, we may just miss the most fantastic adventure we could have had by taking last minute trip to our friends cabin 2 hours away. The joy and bliss that comes with experiencing something doesn’t have to be planned. Sometimes  when we plan a great...
When Ordinary Is No Longer An Option

When Ordinary Is No Longer An Option

[/et_pb_signup] One Red Lipstick, both the book and documentary, is about resilience. It’s about how women when faced with challenges and obstacles, grit their teeth, and ploughed on, not letting the “stuff” of life hold them back.  They were determined that what had happened wasn’t going to stop them. Detours perhaps, a change of direction maybe, and for sure whatever happened to them would shape who they became, but it wasn’t their identity, it wasn’t their claim to fame. So how did they do it? How did they build their resilience muscle? Well with any muscle it gets stronger, the more you use it. And certainly that was a factor, but as I heard the stories I am struck by their ability to not feel sorry for themselves. A “pity” party was not on the cards for them. No way. Instead, they took a pragmatic approach. They stepped back and looked at the big picture and reflected on what they could do to change the situation. For Andreea it was choosing not to go ahead with a big business deal, but instead getting back to basics and what she loved to do, rather than build an empire that she’d have to manage. Sometimes bigger isn’t always best. For Fay when her husband became seriously disabled, she was thrown into the breadwinner role in order to support her husband and three children. She drew on her skills and interests and opened a yoga and wellness centre near her home, as gone were the days when she could travel globally for her corporate job. She knew she had to just get...
The Importance of Celebrating your Strengths

The Importance of Celebrating your Strengths

[/et_pb_signup] Handstand has always been easy for me. I don’t say this from an ego stand point, but I am being honest. Since I was young I was always walking on my hands, flipping upside down. I’ve always had strong arms. Its funny how we look at handstands and arm balances as these “advanced poses” For me, handstand is not MY advanced pose. What scares me are forward folds, back bends, some poses  that seem ‘basic’ and ‘beginner’. I have tight hamstrings, and backbends don’t make me feel good. It’s just the way it is. But do I work on them occasionally? Of course. Because we need to train the body to ease into poses we don’t like. I always tell my students, don’t worry about what the person beside you is doing. Whether they are upside down, doing the spits, taking wheel, whatever it is we all have our own individual strengths. Don’t beat yourself up for not being able to do a pose. One of my dream poses is to just forward fold! Thats it! If i could have open hamstrings i would be happy. But we have to celebrate our strengths.  Stop focusing on what we CANT do and more on what we CAN. Embrace the journey no matter how long it takes you to get to your goals. The day I forward fold or backbend will be a far bigger accomplishment for me than any handstand. So who cares what you are “bad at”. Let’s talk about what were good at. Let go of anything that does not serve you. Celebrate your strengths. Practice Everyday. Breathe....